People often think that when others in situations like mine demonstrate ambiguity in their actions this means that they actually wanted what happened to happen to them and then later changed their mind or regretted their complicity.
No one actually knows what you are saying.
When we are speaking to others, what they understand is only partially influenced by our intended meaning. A large part of receiving information is subject to one's emotional state, attention to the details of our speech, current thoughts, ability to understand our words, and especially what the receiver expects us to be saying.
They is home sick today.
Thee and thou died as singular second person pronouns. They has arisen as the dual-edged sword of first person pronouns: both singular and plural... which is really the way we have always accidentally used it anyway, just with the wrong verb conjugation.
The [black] lady [with the purple lipstick]
I am finding it more and more difficult to work toward a world in which our children have so many rich experiences of their friends that the last thing they would think to use as a reference is skin color. In many ways, it is my white privilege that has permitted me to try and ignore racial language.
By the numbers: when you should NOT do the experiment.
Doing scientific research on medical treatments helps us to know whether or not they work. That seems obvious, but there are times when a scientist may not want to test whether or not something works. Let me explain. It may seem obvious that we should not conduct medical experiments on treatments like castration for depression. … Continue reading By the numbers: when you should NOT do the experiment.
Let them eat imaginary cake
Business, politics, entertainment, art, education, and even frying eggs seems to require a constant connection to the digital world. Now with COVID-19 amplifying this perceived need of digital connectedness into a necessity, I wonder how the digital recovery will play out. My 7-year-old who already knows how to fry eggs, impulsively asked our Google Home … Continue reading Let them eat imaginary cake
I am almost never right: a doctor admits how he thinks
One of the principles that drives my curiosity is that the first and second (and third) thing I think is likely wrong. Driving past this insecurity into a confident stance of ignorance is hard. At the foundation is accepting my failures is using them as a springboard toward my next magnificent failure. When I am … Continue reading I am almost never right: a doctor admits how he thinks
Social distance: it ain’t all suffering
Raymund used to think Gina, his stay at home partner, was a whiner for complaining about how hard it was to take care of their two kids and keep up with the housework. After 4 weeks working at home, he is ready to hire Gina an assistant once this thing blows over. Sasha has never … Continue reading Social distance: it ain’t all suffering
I do believe in fairies. I do! I do!
The belief of a young child is limitless. Every new thought has a power greater than an adult can possibly experience. There is little current of expectation to wash it away. It is concentrated, potent imagination. So potent that if you can read this you are likely unable to reproduce such a great imagination without … Continue reading I do believe in fairies. I do! I do!
The one-eyed psychoanalyst
"In the land of the blind," it's said, "the one-eyed man is king." Psychoanalysts have a long history of trying to convince people that they are blind and they need a one-eyed king to see into the depths of their unconscious. They probe patients for clues into the depraved condition of their upbringing. They interpreted … Continue reading The one-eyed psychoanalyst